Updated: Jun 8
Divorce is one of the most challenging and emotionally draining experiences a person can go through. It is a time when emotions are high, and decisions need to be made that can significantly impact your life and your family's future. For this reason, many people turn to divorce coaches to help them navigate the process and save money with lawyers, and lawyers agree that this is a great first step before coming to them.
Divorce coaches are professionals who specialize in helping individuals going through divorce manage their emotions, communicate more effectively with their partners, and make better decisions for themselves and their children. They are trained in conflict resolution and communication skills, which are essential in reducing the stress and tension that often come with divorce.
One of the primary benefits of working with a divorce coach is that they can save you money with lawyers. Divorce coaches are not lawyers, and they do not provide legal advice or represent clients in court. However, they can work alongside your lawyer to help you make better decisions and negotiate more effectively.
Lawyers Agree that Divorce Coaching Helps
Lately, I’ve been speaking with divorce attorneys because I wanted to create a list of names for my clients. I want this list to include helpful resources for someone going through or preparing for divorce like attorneys, financial advisors, and realtors. I’m a firm believer that having a wealth of resources during this difficult transition is one way that I can help my clients connect with other professionals with experience in divorce.
Lawyers agree and actually encourage their clients to seek out a divorce coach. But why is that? Simply put, they aren’t hired to help you emotionally, but rather legally. Some lawyers are now telling their clients upfront that coming into a meeting with them with high emotions will only cost them more money and the time spent on emotions could have been finished solving the legal battle.
By working with a divorce coach, you can avoid the costly mistakes that many people make during a divorce. For example, a divorce coach can help you identify your priorities and goals, which can help you focus on the issues that matter most to you. They can also help you communicate more effectively with your spouse, which can help you avoid misunderstandings and reduce the risk of litigation.
It’s important to remember that attorneys want to make sure all legal aspects of the divorce are taken care of. They are not qualified to help emotionally. It’s not that they don’t care about you and the outcome of your family, it’s that they have been hired to do a job and they are going to do it.
We are all programmed to immediately hire a divorce lawyer, and yes you need one, but there are different avenues you can take even when deciding how you want your divorce handled.
Here are a few examples of different divorce avenues:
Mediation - allows the divorcing couple to create their own divorce agreement.
Collaborative - the use of an out-of-court process- negotiate without going to court
Uncontested divorce - an amicable divorce - couples agree on the division of assets, custody of kids, alimony, child support, etc. out of court settlement. A smooth separation
Contested divorce- More complicated, more expensive - when couples can’t agree.
No matter which route you decide to take, having a coach with you during this stressful journey is always a plus. Divorce is an emotional journey, one that your attorney doesn’t want to go on with you.
During my time as a divorce coach, I’ve learned that many women are still unaware that this type of coaching exists, and if they are aware of it, they assume it will be just another expense with little reward or outcome. But hiring a divorce coach is one of the best investments you can make during your divorce and will help you save time and money with your attorney.
Keep in mind, I gathered this information from the attorneys I’ve spoken with.
My passion and purpose is to help women facing divorce understand that this journey isn’t simply a legal battle. There are so many other areas of your life that are tied into your marriage that you may not be fully aware of. My job is to help you find those areas, and prepare for what lies ahead.
As your divorce coach, I will help you not only prepare for what the divorce process looks like, but help you manage your emotions, communicate more effectively with your spouse, and make better decisions for you and your family all while keeping you accountable throughout the process. Together, you and I will work on building a plan for your future.
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