Should I Stay or Should I Go? Making the Hardest Decision With Clarity

Written By Nanette Murphy

This is the question that keeps women awake at night.

Should I stay?
Or should I go?

For women in long-term marriages, this decision is not about love alone.
It is about:

  • Family

  • Finances

  • Identity

  • Fear

  • Children (regardless of their age)

  • Time

  • Regret

And it is rarely clear.

Why This Decision Is So Difficult

Women struggle because:

  • We minimize our pain

  • We fear being alone

  • We worry about our children

  • We doubt ourselves

  • We carry guilt and loyalty

And we often wait until crisis forces the decision.

What Most Women Do Wrong

Most women:

  • Ask everyone else for advice

  • Ignore their own values

  • Focus on the past instead of the future

  • Wait for certainty that never comes

This decision is not about certainty.
It is about alignment.

How a Divorce Coach Helps You Decide

A divorce coach helps you explore:

  • Your values

  • Your non-negotiables

  • Your emotional health

  • Your future vision

  • Your capacity for change

Not to push you toward divorce —
But to help you make a decision you can live with.

What You Can Do Right Now

Ask yourself:

  • If nothing changed, could I live this life for 10 more years?

  • Who am I becoming in this marriage?

  • What do I need to honor about myself?

This is not a legal decision.
It is a life decision.

If you’re wrestling with this question, begin with clarity — not pressure.

Download my free Divorce Clarity Workbook and take the first step toward the right answer for you.

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Nanette Murphy

I help women heal, reclaim their power and step boldly into a new life.

To assist them as they navigate this transition;turning this challenging time into an opportunity so they can experience growth and empowerment.

As a Life Reinvention Coach for Divorced Women, I provide something beyond traditional therapy, and it’s the support most divorced women desperately need. Divorce can shatter your sense of self, leaving you feeling disconnected, doubting your worth, and uncertain about your future. Many women attempt to push through on their own, often relying solely on willpower and sheer determination. But without true healing and the right guidance, they fall into familiar traps, repeating patterns and feeling stuck, only to end up right back where they started.

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