The Mistake That Costs People the Most

Written By Nanette Murphy

The most common January response is urgency:
Find an attorney. File quickly. Get it over with.

Legal guidance is important—but it should not be the first step.

Divorce is not only a legal event.

It is an emotional, financial, and life transition that impacts your future far beyond the courtroom. When decisions are made while overwhelmed, confused, or emotionally flooded, they often come with long-term consequences.

This is where a Certified Divorce Coach (CDC) becomes essential.

Why a Certified Divorce Coach Matters

A Certified Divorce Coach is trained specifically to help clients:

  • Gain clarity before making legal or financial decisions

  • Manage emotions so thinking stays clear

  • Prepare strategically for conversations with attorneys and mediators

  • Build a support team instead of relying on one professional to do it all

This is not the same as working with a general life coach. Divorce requires specialized training and knowledge.

Why Lived Experience Makes a Difference

Equally important is working with a coach who has been through a divorce themselves.

I know this because I lived it.

My marriage ended after 25 years due to infidelity.

I went through my own grey divorce feeling overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unsure of what steps to take. I trusted only my attorney—and looking back, I now know how costly that was, both financially and emotionally.

I didn’t have clarity. I didn’t know what questions to ask. And I didn’t know there were other professionals who could have supported me along the way.

That experience is what led me—later in life—to become a Certified Divorce & Life Reinvention Coach. Not because I wanted this work, but because I understand how desperately it’s needed.

Begin With Clarity, Not Urgency

If January is the month you are considering divorce, pause before taking action.

Clarity protects you.
Preparation empowers you.
Support saves you money—and regret.

I invite you to begin with my Divorce Clarity Workbook, created to help you organize your thoughts, understand your options, and move forward with intention.

📘 Access the workbook here:
https://publuu.com/flip-book/link/4063029

Learn more about my work at:
🌐 https://www.livelifenowwithpurpose.com/

You don’t need all the answers today.
You just need the right place to begin.

Nanette Murphy

I help women heal, reclaim their power and step boldly into a new life.

To assist them as they navigate this transition;turning this challenging time into an opportunity so they can experience growth and empowerment.

As a Life Reinvention Coach for Divorced Women, I provide something beyond traditional therapy, and it’s the support most divorced women desperately need. Divorce can shatter your sense of self, leaving you feeling disconnected, doubting your worth, and uncertain about your future. Many women attempt to push through on their own, often relying solely on willpower and sheer determination. But without true healing and the right guidance, they fall into familiar traps, repeating patterns and feeling stuck, only to end up right back where they started.

https://www.livelifenowwithpurpose.com
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